Totally adult dating like
Although the warning signs were there from the outset, I chose to be blind to them and continue dating them anyway.
Partly because I used to be a firm believer that love was capable of conquering all, and also, because I didn’t want to accept that the handsome, charming, funny guy at my side wasn’t capable of “adulting” in a relationship!
We wrongly believe it must be everyone else’s fault the relationships we’ve been in haven’t worked out. We have to become the type of person we want to be to be able to attract the same qualities in another.
What we fail to see is that just because we grown-up love, it doesn’t mean that we ourselves are ready for it. Or at the very least to be able to keep it once we have attracted it.
I realized that I only needed myself to be able to live fully.
I didn’t need to depend on anyone else for love, happiness or anything else.
You also can't force anyone to talk to you, and trying is a surefire way to make them uncomfortable.So it made sense, I had to make changes so that I could find the type of relationship I had been hoping for.Then, I could banish old patterns so that they did not keep repeating and so that they stopped haunting me.Although the relationship will be full of cracks and they are not likely to last, the rollercoaster ride leaves both parties dizzy and constantly reeling. We are constantly learning and are subjected to a variety of stimuli on a daily basis that makes it entirely impossible to remain the same.This makes the experience one that can be very difficult to step away from. Day-to-day changes may not be very noticeable but when we look back over time the changes are far more obvious.