Even beer or spirits can set me off and it can be quite embarrassing when it strikes and you have to deal with the consequences.
Even though the guy usually doesn’t care at all, having to run to the bathroom isn’t very attractive and can lower your self-esteem massively. Having IBS is part of who I am whether I like it or not.
Many of the questions that are posed to me in the Young Adults Issues forum on about dating and relationships—and, as a twenty-something-year-old, I have experienced my fair share.
Ideally, IBS is not something to discuss over a nice meal (if, indeed, you are able to enjoy a “nice meal” or go out at all).
IBS is a functional disorder of the GI (gastrointestinal tract) characterized by alternating bowel habits such as diarrhea, constipation, or a combination of the two; abdominal pain; and discomfort.
IBS is more than its physical symptoms—the psychological problems that come with it—such as the anxiety of experiencing an attack outside a comfort zone or traveling long (or short) distances—can send people running for their valium.
After a while, Pete realized he had never seen me eat.
My experience with dates is that the guy is surprisingly OK with it and is actually quite interested in why I can’t eat certain things and how it all came about. I’ve had several dates where I’ve had terrible stomach issues due to nerves and/or something I’ve eaten.If I do end up in a restaurant or cafe and have to explain why I’m only ordering the salad without everything but the lettuce, it can be quite tricky to explain my “intolerances.” Sometimes it’s easier to say I’m lactose intolerant because guys usually have a vague idea of what that means, or that I’m just intolerant to certain food groups.I can’t really come out and say, “Hey, I get diarrhea when I eat most things,” so I subtly try and explain that some foods don’t agree with me. It’s always nerve-wracking trying to explain your dietary requirements to a new guy because you don’t want to come across as a picky eater who follows some food fads.I can’t change it and there’s no cure so I have no choice but to accept it.If a guy has a problem with it, that’s completely on him and I shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.