Dealing with rejection in dating
I merely told him in a straight-forward manner that I had assumed he was not interested in me since I hadn’t heard from him at all.
He acknowledged that he could understand my making that assumption.
It’s not uncommon for me to go weeks or even a couple of months without matching or connecting with anyone.
Somehow I had caught an unlikely break at the beginning of the month.
I had bought a ticket to see a movie and told him I was heading out the door.
I did not call him any names, lay into him for ignoring me all week, or give him a hard time in any way.
These are perfectly decent looking guys in their 40’s with no obvious deal-breakers, but mostly? So, yes, I reached out first to each of these guys. He had several good things going for him and a couple of things that I wasn’t into. We spoke on the phone (at his request) and got along fine. I was definitely interested in meeting him to see if we had any chemistry in person.
He was not tall, had a receding hairline, and an average build, but he was a snazzy dresser and had an entertaining (if brief) profile. So I tell people I have dates “in theory.” I never count my chickens (or roosters, so to speak) until they are hatched! She has gone out on at least 100 first dates, interacted with over 1000 guys, and reviewed at least 10000 profiles.
I sent a gracious response congratulating him on finding someone special. That’s how a woman goes from having three dates to having no dates over the course of two weeks.
If there is one thing that most people can't stand, one thing that almost always gets an intense, emotional response, it's rejection. Scenario 1: You go out to a bar on the weekend with your friends.
There are some people who get rejected left and right and can continue living as if nothing happened. Unfortunately, not all of us are so impervious to rejection.
You're all having a good time, chatting and having a couple of drinks, when you see a beautiful stranger at the other side of the room.