Dating a single man
It isn't necessary for a single mom to introduce her kids to every man she dates casually, as the children may form attachments to a boyfriend, making it tricky for everyone involved if they suddenly stop dating, notes Healthy Children.org, a website of the American Academy of Pediatrics.
With four kids, who have four different personalities, your girlfriend may feel anxious about how each one of her brood will react to meeting you.
Don't rush her to introduce you to the kids before she -- and the children -- are ready.
This may mean staying away from the house and having dates out instead of spending an evening in watching a movie or having a romantic dinner at her home.
Her children's games are the only ones she wants to play. Feel like she's perfect except you don't want kids? Instead of pretending you know what it's like, ask questions and be humble. Be ready for rapid-fire spontaneity or an ironclad calendar. She probably doesn't need saving, but she definitely needs a massage. If you want to whisk her away for a romantic weekend, offer to help with the parental logistics so she's relaxed on her trip, not distracted with worry.
I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.
If the relationship looks like it's getting serious, then it's time to talk to your girlfriend about planning a first meetup.
If you're ready to meet the kids, keep in mind that they are four individual children, each with his own interests, likes and needs.
Public displays of affection aren't appropriate around your girlfriend's kids, whether they are toddlers or teens, until the relationship is solid, moving toward permanence and the kids are comfortable it.
The children may feel territorial or look at you as trying to replace their dad.